First of all, what is phone dating? Phone dating is done by people who have never met and most of the time will never meet anyway. If they live on different continents or on the other side of town. It is usually becasue one party or both parties feel comfortable just talking on the phone and do not have the courage to step out of their comfort zone. Be warned, if you are building a relationship with a phone dater . . .
Many people who have phone dates are married. Phone dating is common when people have discovered each other on line, but it is a complete waste of time! Let me explain why.
1. Many guys just don’t have the courage to ask a girl out and keep the conversation going in the hope that she will suggest a meeting. It is something a guy can “hide behind”.
2.People become addicted to Phone Dating. A beautiful woman related her experience to me: “He phoned me every night at 8 pm and we talked for three hours. When I made it clear that I would prefer a proper date rather than a ‘Claytons Date’ he lost interest. I really believe he was addicted to Phone Dating.”
3. What you “hear” is not necessarily what you get! Phone Dating is most common before a couple have met. They are at their most charming both wanting to impress. Sometimes a really exciting rapport is developed, each becomes a little cheeky, even daring over the telephone and then when they meet . . . They are not what each other imagined.
She is thinking, “Gosh! Did I really flirt with him?”
He thinks, “If I had known she has such a large ‘but’ I would never have been so daring. Now how do I get out of this one fast?”
Research has shown that 50% of all phone assessments are incorrect. Very large women most often have soft, sweet voices making them sound tiny whilst petite women have strong voices and sound large. Men with toffy voices quite often don’t have the funds to live the elite lifestyle that their voice reflects. Some men with very flat voices are very well educated.
We hear of people who are oceans away who meet on-line and develop very personal relationships. This relationship may continue for months, even years without meeting. When they do meet, most often the relationship fizzles out because each has been talking to a figment of their own imagination.
Many people who have phone dates are married. It may be a relief from a boring marriage, a person who doesn’t have the courage to leave or just a promiscuous person who gets his/her kicks from chatting on the phone.
The actual person they meet is not the person that they feel they have been talking to all this time. It comes as a shock and most couples never recover from the shock. Of course we have all heard of couples who have met their husband or wife on-line after a long phone courtship but these are the ones we hear about because they are so rare.
In summary, phone dating is only suitable for the misfits of this world.